This will be less of an article filled with actionable advice and more of my thoughts and musings. If you have more than a passing interest in style this should still be interesting though.

I’ll be discussing quite a few things. The biggest thing being how the majority of people are pretty much dressing in just three different ways.

1. Menswear
2. Vintage
3. Streetwear

What’s interesting to me is that how you can pretty much link a demographic to each style of wear.

For example, the hobbyist who’s really into fashion will typically be into dressing vintage (vintage including archival clothing as well.) Younger men, especially in their early twenties will be generally wearing streetwear.

What’s unique about menswear however is that even if your wardrobe consists primarily of vintage or streetwear pieces, generally speaking, you will still have to have menswear pieces in your wardrobe as well.

This isn’t the case in reverse. If you dress in menswear primarily, you don’t need vintage or streetwear pieces in your wardrobe.

This is because with certain occasions you have expected to have some degree of professionality or formality in dress. For example,  with most nice restaurants you’re expected to wear a buttoned shirt and shoes that aren’t sneakers. You aren’t usually limited by a menswear-centric wardrobe if you choose to dress that way but you are limited by a vintage or streetwear heavy wardrobe.

The only time this isn’t the case is if you live on the fringes of society and don’t have to deal with any sort of professionalism, whatsoever.

For example, you will need to have clothing for interviewing even if you dress in streetwear or vintage clothing primarily.

I also feel like menswear can actually directly improve your life while that isn’t so much the case for the other aforementioned types of style.

I find that the more professionally I am dressed, the better I am treated across the board. Dressing smarter opens more doors for you both literally and figuratively.

This is also the case with dating and the opposite sex. A “dope” streetwear fit just doesn’t have the same power as a smarter fit with a blazer and nice leather shoes. I know this from experience.

It appears me to that having nice menswear pieces does more for your status than even the dopest most creative type of streetwear or vintage fit. It genuinely affects your life.

This is why I moved away from doing any, and all, sort of styling for men and focused on styling men who want to look their age. My goal is genuinely to improve men’s life, it’s not to make them look cool on social media.

Another interesting thing I want to talk about is how style is headed in the direction of being much more homogenized as opposed to having defined trends. This is because of how much of a goliath social media has become in people’s lives.

You remember how in the earlier late 2000s EVERYBODY was wearing Hollister, Aeropostale and Abercrombie & Fitch? Things like that probably have gone the wayside. The fit of clothing in the overall style zeitgeist is trending looser across the board but there aren’t any brands or types of style that are just dominating. Even the dad shoe trend existed concurrently with several other trendy types of shoes (the minimalist white sneaker being one.)

Because of social media style is becoming way more based on your own personality and preferences than anything else. A lot of old trends were a result of celebrities and marketing. Nowadays people are more influenced by their peers than influencers and celebrities.

With all of that being said. It is my opinion that you should have a menswear base in your wardrobe even if you are into streetwear or vintage clothing. It just brings so much utility unless, as I said earlier, you are indeed living on the fringes of society.

Just a few interesting thoughts that popped in my mind.

I’ll have some more information on the book I’m working on soon.

Thank you for reading.

-JS

Components:

1. Ray-Ban State Street Sunglasses
2. Bleue Burnham Silver ‘The Solid Signet’ Ring
3. Polo Ralph Lauren Cotton Shawl-Collar Cardigan
4. Converse Colors Chuck Taylor All Star
5. J. Crew 484 Slim-fit Tech Pant

Truthfully the only reason I made this Free Look was to get those Ray-Ban State Street Sunglasses in front of your eyes.

It’s pretty unusual for a brand like Ray-Ban to introduce such an interesting silhouette. Wearing something like these will DEFINITELY make you (in a good way.)

I find the black/transparent color way is a lot less loud than the other color ways while still being interesting.

This is more of a look geared to the younger crowd (as in men in the early thirties or younger) but if you live in somewhere a little more metropolitan you can pull something like this off even if you’re older, EASY.

The ring by Bleue Burnham compliments the sunglasses’ proportions nicely with it’s clunky, but still rounded, silhouette.

The “Lemon Chrome” (mustard yellow) Converse Chucks brings a bit of color pop to the outfit and stops it from being too monotonous. While red is the complimentary color of blue, I felt like yellow really brought the whole look to life.

The grey cotton shawl cardigan by Ralph Lauren not only adds a bit of texture but also adds a bit of layering. It’s a really easy cardigan to wear, even for men afraid of cardigans. Men are REALLY bad about incorporating layering for aesthetics and not just pure functionality.

I went with the Bedford Coal instead of Black for the pants because… black is too easy. And boring. The Bedford Coal colorway also works with the grey cardi better than black does.

Hope you enjoyed this article and learned a thing or two!

The links contained in this article are all Amazon affiliate links which means I get paid a commission if you click them and purchase something. That being said, the video should make it abundantly clearly I actually use ALL of these products.

In this article I’m basically going to show you pretty much all of the hygiene + grooming products that I use.

Sensodyne Toothpaste

If you get canker sores this is a really nice. I’ve tried a few other brands (including Opalescence) but they all eventually give me canker sores because of sodium lauryl sulfate. While it is a “whitening” toothpaste I don’t really notice any sort of whitening. I more so use it because of how gentle it is while still being effective at cleaning.

 

CeraVe Foaming Cleanser

I just switched from the regular CeraVe hydrating cleanser (green label) to this one. Skin care is super important and you should AT LEAST clean with your face (not with soap because it’ll mess with your skin’s Ph balance and may be too harsh for it), moisturize it and use SPF. I find this to clean a little better than the regular hydrating cleanser.

 

CeraVe Ultra Light Moisturizer Lotion + SPF

Another recent switch from me. I used to use the normal AM moisturizer lotion with SPF but I found it would break me out (I don’t break out uncompletely but I get two or three pimples.) Neither leave a white cast on skin when fully applied but I find this goes on a lot easier and, most importantly, doesn’t break me out.

 

Dentek Floss Picks

I use these instead of actual floss. I thought about getting a water floss but this works well enough for me.

 

Toothbrush

I literally just use some Oragel toothbrush I got from the dentist’s office. The electric ones are alright but truthfully I don’t notice a difference in cleanliness.

 

Luelli Teeth Whitening System + LED

This is great if you need to whiten your teeth. Very effective and easy on the gums. I’m not quite sure if the LED actually helps with whitening but I figured since it’s only a few dollars more I’d get the kit with the LED.

The instructions say to put the gel on the mouth guard and apply it that way but I get much better results (and find it easier to avoid getting it on my gums) by putting it directly on my teeth by using a Q-Tip/cotton swab.

This is way better than any pretty much anything you can buy in your typical pharmacy, including the expensive whitening strips (I’ve tried them.) The only thing more effective would be a whitening system with a higher carbamide peroxide percentage gel (this one is 35% but some go as high as 44$) or Zoom whitening at a dentist’s office.

 

Deodorant

As long as it isn’t too fragrant it doesn’t really matter what you use unless you have sensitive skin. In the video companion for this article I use Secret but I’ve since upgrading to Dove for sensitive skin.

 

Mouthwash

I’m not sure if this actually helps with oral hygiene but I find it helps my breath somewhat (though since getting my teeth professionally cleaned I don’t really have too many breath issues) and makes my mouth feel cleaner (again not sure if it actually helps with oral hygiene but it does make my mouth feel cleaner.) I just use generic instead of Listerine.

I also floss after every meal and try to brush my teeth twice a day (I brush my teeth every morning but sometimes I’m so busy into the evening the second brushing session slips through the cracks.)

 

Evagloss Bumps Solution

This helps prevent razor bumps… a little. I get them often enough where every little bit matters though. This is a must have for me but I find that my razor, blades and shave routine matters waaaaaaaaay more. However If you don’t get razor bumps you probably don’t need this.

 

WEISHI Safety Razor

I use this cheapo from Amazon. Not very aggressive and easy to learn with. Mind you I use a safety razor because it prevents me from getting razor bumps. I have no interest, whatsoever, in the whole wet shaving hobby. Do not use this to shave your genitals. If you shave your genitals use a cartridge razor.

 

Cremo Shave Cream

This is the shaving cream I use with my safety razor. Like I said, I have no interest in the whole wet shaving hobby so I use this tubed goop instead of spending a ton of time using shaving soap and a lather.

I find this works a little better than Barbasol (which I find works better than the commonly recommended Aveeno for sensitive skin shaving gel.) I linked to a different scent than the one I’m currently using because I’ll be switching to that one once this tube is over.

 

Feather Razor Blades

I find a really sharp shave with proper technique actually prevents me from getting razor bumps. If you use these guys be careful because it is incredibly easy to nick yourself if you don’t know what you’re doing. The Gillette 7 O’clock razors are a bit more affordable and less sharp but still work really well.

 

Ketoconazole Shampoo

I use Regenepure Dr which is pretty pricey for shampoo but I use it prevent male pattern baldness. It has an ingredient in it called ketoconazole that helps with that wonderful ordeal. It also helps with dandruff (not the reason I bought it.) Unfortunately it is no longer available on Amazon.

Nizoral is another alternative for a ketoconazole shampoo I’ve heard good things about but I have no personal experience with it.

 

Wahl Grooming Kit

I cut my own hair so this is a must for me. If you’re not brave enough to do the same it’s not really necessary to get a full kit but even if you don’t cut your own hair clippers are fantastic for pubic grooming.

 

Wahl Trimmer

This, however, I would recommend to every man. Keeping your nose and ear clear of hairs makes a huge difference in your physical appearance (and amount of boogers.) You can also use this to clean up your eyebrows.

 

Isopropyl Alcohol/Witch Hazel

I use these guys post shave. I only apply isopropyl alcohol on the nicks and I use witch hazel instead of traditional aftershave. I also use the witch hazel as a facial toner occasionally (which is why I use Thayers instead of generic though going generic on the isopropyl alcohol is fine.) I use the following to apply these to my skin:

 

Organic Cotton Rounds

These are incredibly gentle on the skin. They’re also great for applying a real hyaluronic acid toner as part of a skincare routine. I will NEVER go back to cotton balls.

 

Clothes Steamer

Will change your life. Setting up an iron board and using an iron is such a pain in the ass but with this guy all you have to do is fill it with water and plug it in. Most effective when used from inside of a garment. Another cool thing is you can use this on delicates and suiting (just be careful because you can still melt the canvas and cause bubbling.)

The one linked is not the one I use but should work about as well.

 

Nail Clippers

Super important. Disgusting nails are not only gross and unhygienic, they’re also extremely unattractive. I get my toes too because gross ass toe nails are probably even WORSE than gross ass fingernails. Don’t go all the way to the nail bed, instead, when you do clip your nails (I usually do it once a week), get rid of the excess white/transcluent area that dirt accumulates under. Brand doesn’t really matter but I find using anything but a full size is a pain in the ass.

Unfortunately I am probably forgetting a few nonessential items but these are all of the hygiene + grooming products that I use that actually make a notable difference.

Thank you for reading!

This isn’t going to be one of those “dress like this to get girls” articles. This is my personal insight, through experience, of the role of style in sexually attracting women with some practical advice sprinkled in.

Does Your Style Matter In Sexually Attracting Women

Yes your style does matter, but your hygiene and grooming matter more than your clothes (hygiene and grooming IS a part of your style.) If you care about sexually attracting women your hygiene and grooming should be as close to perfect as possible.

You can check out my list of The 17 Essential Items if your hygiene and grooming aren’t already maximized.

Also, style and physical appearance is not the end all be all for being to sexually attractive to women. It just helps. Things like outcome independence and confidence (as often as it’s said, it’s true) affect how sexually attractive you are. Hell, even things like logistics can affect your sex life more than how attractive you are.

That being said, if you care about your sex life at all you should care about your style.

The goal isn’t to dress so well that women become sexually attracted to you.

The goal is to dress well enough that women aren’t turned off by you.

That being said certain colognes and styles can be a turn-on to women.

One night while partying in Louisiana I had on Pure Havane by Thierry Mugler. A girl hugged me and loved the scent so much she started kissing my neck all over (funny enough, exactly where I sprayed it even though obviously you can’t taste cologne.)

How Should You Dress To Sexually Attract Women

In my personal experience the only things that actually make a difference are:

• Having nice leather shoes that aren’t sneakers
• Having a nice watch
• Having unique but stylish outerwear
• Wearing other accessories than a watch (rings, necklaces, etc.)
• Having an amazing fragrance

When I say nice I mean high quality and non-cheap looking, not luxury. So for example that would mean brands like Meermin, Beckett Simonon, Allen Edmond (if you don’t mind the absolutely terrible quality control) for shoes and brands like Seiko, Movado, Orient, Tissot, and Nomos for watches. Don’t waste your money on luxury crap if you think it’ll help you “get girls.” You’ll just look like you’re overcompensating and/or a meal ticket.

That being said don’t be afraid to buy luxury items if you actually like them, just don’t buy them expecting a one way ticket to “poon-paradise.”

Instead, that money is better spent on a sports car!

..That’s a joke by the way. During the most sexually active period of my life I actually had no car.

Jokes aside you, at minimum, want to look like a man who has his shit together. Having high-quality shoes and a high-quality watch is extremely effective at accomplishing this (even if you don’t actually have your shit together.)

That being said I mentioned outerwear earlier, and I have no idea why it makes such a difference compared to other garments. My experience is that, except for shoes and accessories, it is more way important than any other garment by at least an entire magnitude.

Good options:

• A nice leather jacket (real lambskin leather not genuine “leather”) from somewhere like Schotts (or Allsaints if you’re on a budget)
• A well-fitting casual blazer (not a suit jacket, an actual sports jacket/blazer)
• Nicer puffers/parkas

On Other Accessories

The main point of wearing other accessories isn’t so much that they make you more sexually attractive. It is because they invite conversation and physical touch.

The One Thing Style Influencers Will Never Tell You

If you’re to a bar or club tees from certain brands perform outrageously well. It has nothing to do with price. Some of the brands that perform extremely well include:

• Tommy Hilfiger
• Calvin Klein
• Guess

I don’t know exactly why these brands outperform other brands in the same type of market segment like Armani and even most luxury brands but I have a theory.

My theory is as follows: Women really like these brands (especially Calvin Klein. It seems like every girl I know has or wants that grey Calvin Klein sports bra and underwear set.) The reason luxury brands like Gucci, Yves Saint Laurent, and Louis Vuitton don’t perform as well as the ladder brands, even though women love them as well, is because wearing them makes it look like you’re overcompensating.

I’m not saying you should go out and buy a t-shirt from one of those brands if you’re trying to improve your sex life. I’m saying that if you like any of those brands, instead of following the dogmatic belief that branding is the devil itself and that you should NEVER wear branded clothing, you should maybe consider a tastefully branded t-shirt from one of these brands into your wardrobe.

What is tasteful branding you may ask? It’s hard to exactly quantify “tasteful branding” but if I had it it would be:

When the garment would be the exact same as an unbranded garment except for ONE small visual asset.

I’m also not saying that you should NEVER wear obnoxiously branded clothing. It’s just A LOT harder to style clothing like that unless you know what you’re doing.

Some Strange Oddities I Can’t Explain

These are some weird things I notice that I can’t really explain:

When alone in private I’ve found some women are super into actual pajamas and robes.

I’ve also found that even though smarter outfits work best on one-on-one dates, super casual (t-shirts, etc.) work best when clubbing or going to the bar.

This is beyond the scope of this article but:

A lot of guys think how fit you are is extremely important to how attractive you are.

It does matter, but all things being equal, unless you are EXTREMELY overweight, the out of shape version of you with better style is going to beat the fit version of you with worst style EVERY TIME.

I’ve been literally shredded. I’ve been fit. I’ve been fat. I’ve been VERY fat. I’m speaking on this from experience.

That being said, the fit version of you, given equal style, WILL beat out the out of shape version of you.

The difference is negligible however.

The biggest thing losing weight does for your appearance (beyond making your body less androgynous) is make your face look better and even that’s only to a certain point.

You should still try and stay in shape though, if not your physical appearance then for your health.

Thank you for reading.

When it comes to your wardrobe there are three things you shouldn’t cheap out on:

• Shoes
• Accessories
• Outerwear

Why? Because you typically get what you pay for, they’re the first things people notice on you, and they last a lot longer than other pieces.

I’m not saying you should spend exorbitant amounts of money on these things, just that you shouldn’t cheap out on them. As a rule of thumb I spend just a little more than I’m comfortable with on these pieces.

Shoes

This applies more so to leather shoes than canvas shoes (although the construction of an ASOS plimsoll is going to markedly worse than something like Converse for example.)

This also applies more to actual shoes than sneakers (the lay person isn’t going to notice a huge perceivable difference between Adidas Stan Smiths and something from Greats for example.)

Until you reach a certain price-point with leather shoes you get plastic covered crap that looks cheap.

When leather like this creases the wrinkles look terrible. It just looks worse over times no matter how much you take care of them. Good leather develops a patina over time and the creases don’t look nearly as bad.

The soles are also glued on instead of stitched. When the soles blow out they’re done for. You can resole welted shoes. You’re basically spending the same for less for better looking shoes over time.

Entry level brand suggestions: Thursday Boots, Meermin, and Beckett Simonon. NOT ALLEN EDMONDS (because of quality control issues)

If you ABSOLUTELY cannot afford any of those: Florsheim, and JCPenney Stafford Line

These will NOT be nearly as good as the above brands but you at least kind of get what you pay for.

Accessories

By accessories I primarily mean sunglasses, watches and jewelry.

This is especially important with jewelry because cheap jewelry can literally leave marks on your skin.

Jewelry

With jewelry you want to avoid weird zinc alloys. Stick to stainless steel, glass, stone, fabric and precious metals only.

ASOS and Etsy are great places for jewelry if you’re hurting for money. I’ve found that HM is a little sketchy when it comes to finding jewelry that doesn’t irritate your skin.

Sunglasses

Once you reach a certain price-point Sunglasses look markedly more luxurious because of things like better acetate (carved and hand polished vs injection molded), metal, and lenses.

Luxxotica brands do suck compared compared to brands that specialize in eyewear but they’re not as bad as people think. Don’t be afraid to get sunglasses from Luxxotica brands. 

Entry level brand suggestions: Warby Parker, Kent Wang, Ray Ban, Persol, Illesteva, and RETROSUPERFUTURE

If you’re really hurting for money: Some $15 to $20 Sunglasses are fine, just avoid the drug store/dollar store/mall crap. Target Goodfellows is my personal favorite brand for absolute beater sunglasses.

Watches

Don’t waste your money on Daniel Wellington and MVMT watches. They’re terrible, ugly, cheap garbage.

Also, don’t feel obligated to go mechanical unless you’re into watches no matter what anybody says. Mechanical watches don’t keep time as well and setting the time can be a pain in the ass. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with having a watch with a quartz movement (especially if you need the time on your watch to be precise.)

Entry Level Brands: Tissot, Timex, Seiko, Casio, Invicta (NEVER at full retail, and only their homages/replicas, not their ugly original crap), Citizen, and Orient

*Wallets

Not nearly as important as the other three but I highly recommend getting a nicer wallet. People DO notice and you do feel better pulling it out.

I have an Anson Calder wallet and it was a bit pricey but it definitely was worth the purchase. You don’t have to spend nearly that much however.

Some good less expensive options include: Bellroy, Craft & Lore, Mamut, Das Offene, and Taylor Stitch

Outerwear

This applies MOST to leather outerwear. Even more so than leather shoes. You DO NOT want to cheap out on leather outerwear.

That doesn’t mean it doesn’t apply to synthetic, cotton, and wool outerwear as well.

Outerwear takes up the most real estate in your outfit so you want to make sure your outerwear looks great.

Entry level brand suggestions:  Alpha Industries, Carhartt/Carhartt WIP, Schott, Barbour, L. L. Bean, Patagonia, and Allsaints (on sale ONLY)

If you’re really hurting for money: Uniqlo, Abercrombie & Fitch (yes, Abercrombie & Fitch. They’re not nearly as bad now as they were before with the branding)

Thank you for reading.